I have a distinct memory from when I was about seven to nine years old—of looking in the mirror and having a bit of an outer body experience. I was not upset, or crying and I was not thinking about being “too skinny”—the bane of my existence when I was child. I just stood and took a long look at myself—for the first time and I was not thrilled with what I saw in front of me. I remember thinking “This does not work for me…this is not what I would have chosen”. I was “not my type” I just didn’t care for the type of face I had. Long and angular with small eyes and a long chin. A pinched smile, pale ruddy skin and less then desirable “English” teeth. And I have always hated my profile. I always wanted a “curvy” profile, but I would describe mine as more straight.
I have learned to live with this.
You know, be grateful for what you have, but still there were (and are) days where I dream of looking like Christy Turlington or Kendall Jenner. As a kid thought Jennifer Beals was the perfection of beauty. I honestly never coveted the blonde, blue eyed aesthetic so prominent in our culture—especially back then. So you can only imagine with my very Irish/English looks I was pretty much the polar opposite of what I liked. I wanted a small chin, big shallow set almond eyes, a wide smile, full cheeks and opaque non pink skin—everything I didn’t have.
And today it seems an aging neck is happening at an earlier age due to “smartphone face”
But again I focused on being grateful and to learn to live with what I didn’t like. But now you can add aging to the picture. And one area of one’s looks to betray one’s age first is—the neck. The neck has the double whammy of getting a lot use and over using the muscles, to not really being able to exercise it the way you can the rest of your body. And today it seems an aging neck is happening at an earlier age due to “smartphone face” from all the looking down which leads to a shortening of the neck muscles. The price of the convince of technology it seems.
I have just begun to see some of the signs of aging in my neck and lower face. And I will admit I am not thrilled with this, call me vain, or just hyper aware of the society we live in, but it does bother me. But surgery? Umm, I think I am quite a ways away from needing surgery, and I don’t think I would ever do this. First off it is very costly—about 20k. And I have had surgery before (not vanity surgery) and it is no picnic.
But today lucky for us, there is the option of non surgical face and neck lifts. Now this is something I just might consider at some point in the future. Maybe.
The most common type of non surgical neck and face lift is done with Ultherapy. Ultherapy uses ultrasound energy to heat the deeper levels of the skin which in turn boosts collagen production. It works best on women in their thirties, forties and fifties. The results reveal themselves over time generally two to six months. And the best part? It lasts until your skin naturally starts to age again. The cost is about $3,500.00 which is certainly in the range of affordability. However though it is non evasive there are risks, and less then desirable outcomes for some people and it seems people with thinner faces could look worse. Click here to read about this. So as you can imagine I am on the fence about having something like this done. And though it is non surgical once it is done there is no turning back.
You can check out the video below to follow along as blogger Heidi Nazarudin gets a non surgical facelift using a variety of procedures with Dr Sheila Nazarian—not Ulatherapy. And click here to see a video from Home & Family which does a wonderful job of explaining how the Ultherapy procedure works and what to expect. Though the follow up video I could not find.
Is this something you would consider? And have any of you ever had anything like this done? Have you ever had botox or tried fillers? Do you think having anything done before the age of forty is too young? And what about agism? Would you get this done if you felt it would help with getting a job?
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I’ve never tried anything but I certainly won’t rule it out in the future if I think I need it! This was so interesting to read. It’s amazing the things they can do now!
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I don’t know how I feel about this. I’ve always said I’d never get botox injections because they’re just terrible and I still feel that way but as I get older I am noticing these ads more and more and I am starting to second guess myself.
Sxx
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This is such a great topic to talk in every type of surgical and non surgical have risk we just never know what could happen and how you could react to the procedure.
I think it’s a personal choice and maybe I will change my mind by 40 but I’m not a fan of any of these procedures. Call me naive but I think for example my mother looks gorgeous at 60 winkles and all. You are a very beautiful woman, but I know at the end of the day it’s a personal decision 🙂
xo
PinkSole
I think I would consider most anti-aging treatments as long as they’re non surgical and doesn’t involve needles. I’m vain but I just can’t do needles.
*sigh* I understand the frustration and sadness of not looking like you want to, especially from aging. My neck has two creases that nothing will change. So I understand the impulse toward medical treatment. But…
My personal philosophy is against it. Serious treatments, which include not just surgery but those you mention here, have possible side-effects, don’t always work, cost money and dangle a hope that we’ll be beautifully young. Those are minefields. I prefer to suck it up, be strong and accept my body for what it is. Some compliment me on the things I bemoan (e.g., my gray hair), so not everyone agrees about our perceived flaws. I focus on improving things I can and trying not to worry about those I can’t (without this degree of alteration). Of course, everyone is entitled to their own choices, but when I see people with obvious cosmetic surgery, I never think they look better, just more desperate.
I’m not really sure if I would do it or not. You ask all very good questions. As I get older, I can see the fine lines and wrinkles and I hate it. However, I’m really torn if I would ever get work done. I totally think ageism exists in the workplace and is worse for women than men.
I am 36, turning 37 in January next year and I know the signs of aging very well. My pores are larger, my smile line is getting deeper and recently I’ve noticed more lines around my eyes. Would I ever undergo plastic surgery? No, I doubt I ever will but at the same time I don’t judge anyone who does, each to their own. Ultheraphy sounds interesting but I doubt I’ll undergo it too or at least that’s my thinking now. I might change my mind when I hit 40. Haha!
Shireen | Reflection of Sanity
I’ve never heard of this before but it looks very interesting. Thanks for sharing such a personal post! I remember when I was five I wished I had blonde hair. But you’re right, be grateful for what you have 🙂
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Allie,
I am also in the market for a little facial work ( very little) . My eye bags mostly.
I think this is good for the neck, but I think I read not so good for the face, can end up flattening the features., giving a mask like appearance, I think there is a mini lift that is super quick… Check into that. It is surgical but not too traumatic, not nearly like a face lift.
I want to do a little something ( once ) and then age gracefully as my mom did. I do not want to be a slave to up keeping my look, as so many here do. I have ever done fillers or botox, though they can look great.
Those are my thoughts.
I think you re beautiful, but you should do exactly what you want.
xx, Elle
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Let me just say this, I don’t have a problem with any type of cosmetic surgery at all. I think if you feel like you need to change something, and you have the money and you are in the right mind to do so, you should. I, for one am just scared of it and probably wouldn’t do it lol. But you never know. Great informative post Allie.
Kia of / KTS
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I’m trying to embrace aging! LOL It’s hard, because every week or month something pops up. Like where did that come from. I’m for anything that is non-surgical. Thanks for posting this Allie.
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I hate doctors offices and avoid them at all cost except for preventive medicine..things we must see them for annually so I don’t think I would try the neck life. I can definitely relate to having angst about our looks…I guess we grow into ourselves at some point and we learn to play up those parts of us we aren’t to happy with 🙂
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Hmmm, I don’t know, but I don’t think I would rule something like this out.
I would definitely be more likely to consider non-surgical options like this- surgery just sounds so painful + with so much recovery time.
Aging is a bitch, haha. I’m leaning on a serum regime, but will definitely have to keep an eye on things!
-Ashley
Le Stylo Rouge
I haven’t heard of Ultherapy, but I’ve been definitely contemplating laser lip on my neck/chin area. It’s always been the one area I’ve been unsatisfied with. I see no shame or weakness in changing something if you don’t like it. If you have the money and know the precautions, I say go with it!
XxMO
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I’ve never heard of this procedure but it is definitely something I would eventually consider, incredible what they can do these days! Although I did try laser once when I was younger to try to remove a beauty mark… after one session of PAIN I said yup, NOPE haha I’m a bit of a wuss! xo
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i’m still a little bit on the fence about this but if its not surgical, sure why not. if it makes you feel good and you have the resources to do it, sure why not 🙂
Jessica | notjessfashion.com