Influencers Behaving Badly & The Lydia Elise Millen Controversy

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Recently the influencer Lydia Elise Millen has come under some scrutiny for behaving badly, or for basically being a Karen. This is not the first time she has faced criticism, there have also been some controversies around some of her products. I have been following Lydia’s YouTube channel for a few years now, I do enjoy watching it, but I do not follow it super closely or everything that goes on in her life. I generally watch these types of channels for inspiration and entertainment. However, it did come to my attention that she was being called out for how she treated her stylist Nicky Lazou, whose home she went to, to have her hair colored. The event actually took place in the summer of 2020 but recently resurfaced in February 2021 when Lydia posted a video speaking about the last nine months of her life, in which she also addressed what happened at Nicky’s home.

Nicky had been relatively quiet on the matter until Lydia posted this video. Apparently, it has been alleged that Lydia was yelling and screaming and was being accused of over reacting and basically being a bit out of control. While at the home Lydia called her assistant to come to the home because she said she felt “vulnerable”, and the stylist Nicky called her sister to come to the home to help to deescalate the situation. None of this was caught on camera so it is hard to know specifically what happened. Ultimately Lydia left the home, but a few days later Lydia messaged Nicky demanding an apology, which the stylist refused to do.

I personally have not seen this WhatsApp group so this is hearsay for me, but this the crux of the controversy

Apparently Lydia then formed a WhatsApp group with some other influencers where she accused Nicky of doing a bad job, and seemingly tried to disparage the stylist, bulling her as well. I personally have not seen this WhatsApp group so this is hearsay for me, but this the crux of the controversy—the fact that she formed this group in an effort to bully and disparage the stylist’s business. I believe this is what prompted Nicky Lazou to finally to speak out about what happened. 

This controversy has caused Lydia to loose a lot of followers, in addition to many people leaving negative comments calling her out. Though some have complained that she redecorates her house too many times, which is a bit ridiculous—it is her house, she has the right to redecorate as much as she wants. I don’t have a problem with this. I have not unsubscribed from her channel and I continue to watch her videos on and off. I feel like everyone is entitled to have a bad day—however forming a WhatsApp group does take it to the next level. Like I said I do watch her channel, but as with most channels I do not watch every day and kind of pop in and out, so I really had no idea about any of this. Interestingly though, I did watch one her husbands Ali’s videos a while back, where she was not the focus so she was not “on” but she did appear briefly in the video and I was surprised and a little taken aback at how she spoke to her husband, and thought to myself—“hmm that is a different side to her”. But it was just one video and I continued to watch her videos on and off. And I continued to enjoy her content.

But, in this day and age of social media and cameras on everyone’s phone, we are all under public scrutiny, so it is best to keep this in mind and always be on our best behavior.

In the video posted in February of 2021, Lydia spoke of the difficulties she was having in her life, with the failure of the tanning product launch, what happened at Nicky’s home, and she even came clean with how she treats her husband and stated she had feared that he may leave her. It was a bit of an eye opening video. No one is perfect, let’s hope that she has come to terms with some of the issues she has been dealing with, and let’s hope she has had the foresight to look inward and address those aspects of her personality that are less then stellar. For the time being I will continue to follow her channel as I do enjoy her content. I love her branding and her blog in addition to her YouTube channel. But, in this day and age of social media and cameras on everyone’s phone, we are all under public scrutiny, so it is best to keep this in mind and always be on our best behavior. 

XOXO
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22 Comments
  • Jennifer
    August 23, 2021

    Oh wow! I hadn’t heard about this!

    Jennifer
    Curated By Jennifer

  • Ashley
    August 23, 2021

    I don’t follow Lydia and haven’t heard of the scandal before your post, but I love your insight. I think we all face difficulties in our lives, many of which we never allow others to know about or really see. But what they do see is our reactions to things, like in Lydia’s case. While it certainly does not excuse bad behavior and it obviously turns a lot of us off when we see someone being unkind, it is important to remember that we have all had moments that we are not proud of. Moments that don’t really capture who we truly are. So I think it’s just good to keep that in perspective.

    Wishing you the brightest day, Allie!

    Make Life Marvelous

    • alimackin@gmail.com
      August 24, 2021

      Yes this so true, and very well said.

  • Regine Karpel
    August 23, 2021

    Allie,
    I have not heard about the controversy. I appreciate your take on this situation. Social media can be a good thing or not. It is almost like you have to be on guard at all times. Hopefully she gets the help or what she needs in her life. Have a great day my friend.
    http://www.rsrue.blogspot.com

  • Mica
    August 23, 2021

    I’m not familiar with this lady at all. I tend to follow more local people on social media and actual friends than big influencers. I think it’s sad when people’s online personas don’t match up to their personality in real life. It must be exhausting being so fake all the time and like this story it’s only a matter of time before the fakeness cracks and the reality is revealed!

    On a happier note, hope your week is off to a good start! 🙂

  • Pablo
    August 24, 2021

    Hello Allie, I hope you’re having a good summer! How’s everything in NY?

    I think it is not the first time I hear about Lydia Ellise Millen but I don’t follow her, anyway I think that nowadays this kind of scandals are like the celeb scandals we used to have back in the day. And let’s say that as you mentioned now with phones everywhere it is easier to catch somebody doing something that could start a conversation and a fire! It is like having paparazzis all the time, specially if you’re famous. I was thinking the other day that anybody could become a meme, but also anybody can become subject to public scrutiny.

    I think it is sad when the personality of an internet celeb is something really different when you spot them in the real life. But in the end we are all humans and it should be exhausting to pretend something 24/7. This is not the only influencer scandal that we’ll have, but maybe we shouldn’t exalt these internet celebrities. Of course some acts are despicable, but they aren’t perfect in the end.

    All the best!
    Pablo
    http://www.heyfungi.com

  • Kathrine Eldridge
    August 24, 2021

    I’m glad that you she is looking back at her mistakes. The cancel culture has been crazy lately so hopefully everyone can move forward. I’m glad that I’m doing less on social media.

    https;//www.kathrineeldridge.com

  • Margot
    August 24, 2021

    I haven’t heard about this influencer or this drama.
    But I totally got your point. Sometimes it must be difficult when you’re all the times in front of our camera. We’re all humans after all.
    But of course it doesn’t apologize every bad behaviors.
    xx
    Margot
    https://troughthepasturesofthesky.com

  • Ana Castilho
    August 24, 2021

    I confess that I had never heard of…
    Xoxo
    http://myheartaintabrain.blogspot.com/

  • Julia Rees
    August 25, 2021

    I hadn’t heard of this influencer or the controversy before, but it was really interesting to read about.
    I think it’s sad when the public personality doesn’t match the real person, but it’s good that she is talking about her difficulties and her mistakes and I hope she can move forward and work on her issues.
    Julia x
    https://www.thevelvetrunway.com/

  • Marisa Cavaleiro
    August 25, 2021

    hello allie
    I don’t know Lydia, never heard of her, I also watch videos on youtube just for fun! I don’t know anything about this controversy! I think we all have our bad moments, nobody is perfect! If you fake on social media one day the mask falls!
    xoxo

    marisaclosetblog.com

  • Nina
    August 25, 2021

    Wow I had now idea about this. I watch Lydia here and there.
    -Nina
    http://www.stylingwithnina.com/2021/08/summer-date-night-look-ootn.html

  • mia
    August 26, 2021

    I hadn’t heard about this! I find it so difficult when it comes to influencers, because on one hand I only want to support decent people – but also everyone is entitled to having a bad day. This situation is such an odd one – but the level of rudeness to her stylist is totally unacceptable x

    mia // https://beautiful-inspiring-creative-life.com/

  • Ivana Split
    August 27, 2021

    I’m not familiar with anyone involved in this scandal, but forming a Whatsapp group to put someone’s work down definitely sounds a bit extreme. It seems like Lydia is guilty of toxic behaviour and bullying. Influencing is hard but that is hardly an excuse. Anyway, if her content is good, I don’t see harm in following her work, as long as she acknowledges her behaviour and apologizes for it.

  • Eileen
    August 28, 2021

    I follow her too, but not closely and I wasn’t aware of any of this. I think everyone has their moments and their reasons, and of course that’s no excuse for acting poorly.

    Eileen | yesmissy.com

  • stylefrontier
    August 29, 2021

    i honestly never heard of her! but i love how you analyse the situation
    it’s sad to know that the online personality doesn’t match the real individual’s character

  • Christine
    September 1, 2021

    Interesting and good advice too.

  • Lizzy
    September 2, 2021

    Wow! I learn so much from your blog, Allie! I have no idea who this influencer is, but I agree with you, everyone has bad days. And especially if one wants to be in the public eye, it’s best to always be on your best behavior. I hope she’s able to get through all this turmoil in her life.

  • Pamela
    September 3, 2021

    I didn’t know her.
    But what a controversy… It’s awful

    http://www.pamlepletier.com/

  • Sinziana
    September 4, 2021

    Hello!

    I don’t follow Lydia anymore, just a personal preference and I did not heard about this situation but when I scrolled your blog this title caught my attention.
    We are all humans, we all can and make mistakes but sometimes, and this is just my opinion, influencers can go a big to far…I also saw influencers that consider to be above other people…they are just human beings too so to stay humble and always keep our best behaviour is a good thing.

    Have a great weekend!

  • Ann
    September 6, 2021

    Never heard of her.
    Bullying of any form is not good.

    Ann
    https://roomsofinspiration.blogspot.com/

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