Happy Christmas Everyone. Hope you all are with your families enjoying good food and good company. Say a little prayer for all those less fortunate and above all appreciate your loved ones, enjoy the good times, be in the moment and don’t forgot to have fun. And speaking of fun, aren’t these leggings fun? And guess what you can make them too. Check out them out the new Bloglovin DIY Studio. So cool, and there are plenty more DIY ideas in the studio so have a look around and have a glass of eggnog for me!
Generally at this point I have purchased most of my gifts but this year I was so busy that I did not do my usual Christmas in July shopping
Yes we are roughly six weeks away from Christmas. Are you ready? I for one am not quite up to speed. Generally at this point I have purchased most of my gifts but this year I was so busy that I did not do my usual Christmas in July shopping. But one thing I can cross off my list is gift tags. Gift tags for me are always a challenge, I kind of forget about them and once I have all my gift wrap and ribbon picked out I realize I do not have tags that match my wrapping paper. Then I shop frantically for charming tags that will compliment the paper only to find cheesy over zealous Christmas themed tags that do not in any way match, or add charm to my beautifully wrapped gifts.
So you can image how tickled I was when I spied these last week in Anthroplogie. These tags from Knot&Bow are the perfect solution to my gift tag dilemma. Simple, classic, in understated but festive colors these tags will add charm and whimsy to my holiday gifts and give me plenty of space to write a heartfelt note to my loved ones. And the gold bakery twine will give my gifts just the right amount of bling. So if you have more of a crafty side to your holiday decor you may want to pop over to Anthropologie or Knot&Bow and pick up a box of these beauties. Plus they are only $22.00, cool huh?
The day has finally come, Garance Dore’s book Love Style Life is now available. It can be purchased at Amazon.com, via Garance’s website and at most major book retailers. I can’t wait to get my copy and being an Amazon Prime member you know what my next purchase is going to be, right? You can also follow Garance on Snapchat via @garancedore. She had a live chat where she answered questions and spoke about her book and she was also featured in Glamour recently. Another shining example of a hard working talented blogger hitting the big time. It could not have happened to a better person.
Recently Victoria Beckham came under fire for using models that were too thin or the fat word for thin—skinny. I clicked on the pictures and video expecting to see walking skeletons and well I didn’t. Some of the models were thinner then others with their upper arms as thin as their lower arms, and this can make someone look very thin. Although that said, there are a lot of people out there (guys too) who have builds like this, especially when they are young, but they are not sickly or starving. They generally fill out as they get older, but some people are naturally thin and this is just their build and body type.
When it comes to fashion, thin models are used because basically they want walking hangers—they want the viewer to notice the clothes and not the person in the clothes which is why the models that walk in fashion shows all have the same body type and are in and around the same height. This creates a uniform look, essentially a walking clothes rack. And today buying clothes “off the rack” is the way everyone shops, we no longer go to a store and see clothes on a live person and then have clothes ordered to fit the way women often did in the pre war days. And since we are so used to seeing clothes hanging on hangers when we buy them, this is kind of reproduced on the runway and in editorials—hangers with pretty faces. The camera can also make people appear to be heavier then they are, so with the rise of the use of photography in fashion after World War II models got thinner.
There certainly have been cases where this was taken to an extreme and models were used that looked like they had just been rescued from a concentration camp but often they are just naturally skinny girls. Again it is fashion and not “reality” and I don’t think fashion shows are nessisarily representing reality. But for the most part, most of the women who like fashion, read fashion magazines, and buy fashionable clothes do not have eating disorders.
And if fat shaming is seen as bad or negative, then why is skinny shaming OK? Isn’t this just the other side of the same coin?
The percentages are actually quite low. Eating disorders are a very serious disorder and are not caused by fashion, however the images of thin women often used in fashion can act as a trigger, these type of images do not cause eating disorders but they can according to Eonline and Lorna Garner, chief operating officer of the eating disorder charity b-eat, escalate and exacerbate existing conditions. She states “There is overwhelming evidence that points to these images having a very negative and damaging effect.” But statistically the percentages are still fairly low when compared to the public at large of women who read and or look at fashion images and have an actual eating disorder. And sadly the bigger health issue is obesity and majority of the public being over weight, with many healthcare professionals referring to this problem as an epidemic. And this has to do with the American food industry (don’t get me started) the average American diet, and the over-sized portions and servings, because seriously folks, if you have to hold your beverage with two hands—it’s too big.
I have only known two people with eating disorders, one of which was a guy, a guy who had zero interest in fashion. And when I say zero, I mean zero, he wore a uniform of black or gray jeans and black or gray short or long sleeved tees, yet he had an eating disorder complete with making himself throw up. My friend had this disorder due to growing up in an extreme authortian household with a strict demanding father. The other person I knew was a women and she was even hospitalized because of her eating disorder, in her case she had been sexually molested by a female family member and the eating disorder was a manifestation of that abuse and the loss of control. Which is generally why eating disorders develope, it is a response to a lack of control or a perceived lack of control. So to blame an entire industry for a complex emotional disorder which effects a rather small part of the general population is a bit misguided.
But it is not surprising, it seems anything that is mainly targeted to women is held up for scrutiny. And if fat shaming is seen as bad or negative, then why is skinny shaming OK? Isn’t this just the other side of the same coin? The anger and animosity aimed at thin women is exceptional. It is assumed that all thin women are intentionally starving themselves and are vapid self absorbed superficial drama queens. I have a friend who lost a fair amount of weight and went from a size 14 to a size 4 in about 20 months. She did it in a healthy gradual way, eating healthy food and working out. But told me she experienced open hostility from her fellow coworkers who appeared resentful of her successful weight loss. And another time when I was at an event at for Lucky Magazine and was speaking with one of the editors who had an athletic build she spoke about how she gained weight when she was pregnant and show she was treated differently. I fully expected her to say that people were not as nice to her when she gained weight, but nope, she said the opposite—people were nicer to her when she was heavier and she too was quite surprised by this reaction. Not that obese people and women in particular do not experience open ridicule, they do. Which makes this reaction so surprising. What is it about the female body in all it’s shapes and sizes that our society (and others) find so threatening?
And this coveting of the ultra thin is a fairly recent development. Historically, being stick thin and flat chested was not considered attractive for women and if you go back a hundred years or more it was associated with poverty. In recent history and before the 1970’s the ideal as was the curvy bombshell aesthetic, think Joan of Mad Men fame. But how many women look like that? That is even more of an unattainable ideal. I personal know very few women that have figures like Joan.
So what exactly is this about? And this does seem to be something specific to the American pschye. I think part of the problem is because the gap between the general public and the images we see in the media of actors, celebrities and models is so wide. With much of the population being over weight and out of shape and a majority (though not all) of celebrities being fit and thin and models being very young and thin. Which in a way is kind of a reflection of American society in general with our wide discrepancies in wealth and political and religious beliefs. And it seems women’s bodies are somehow always used as metaphors for all of societies ills. And I made the same observation that Rowena did, I meant to address it in the post, but yes the models in Victoria Beckham’s shows were thin, but they were not any thinner then the models used in dozens upon dozens of shows this past Fashion Week, yet only she was singled out for criticism. Could it be that she herself is quite thin? I think this is exactly the reason, what say you?
And a very sad commentary on our society was the existence of a Facebook page and Instagram account called Project Harpoon. This group photoshopped photos of heavier celebrities to make them look thinner as a way (so they say) to call attention to what they claim is a climbing trend of “fat acceptance” which is then used as an excuse to not exercise and not take responsibility for personal healthcare, along with the issue of skinny shaming. And it is interesting to note, the images are mostly female celebrities. What, there are no less then svelte male celebrities? Hmm. Yes being overweight can cause some unwanted heath issues, and yes skinny shaming is not OK, but this is NOT the way. Wow. And again it is all aimed at women. Both accounts have since been deleted. But there are still the haters judging women’s bodies which was sadly brought in to focus by the recent negative comments on social media regarding Gigi Hadid. I mean really? Really? Sad to say that I am sure a fair among of those comments came from other women, and I am sure the majority of it is plain old jealousy. But still, how sad is this. What does this all mean?
So what do think? Do you think it is ok to shame skinny um I mean thin women? And why do you think this happens? And why do think obviously beautiful women are also body shamed?
[dropcap custom_class=”normal”]Y[/dropcap] es it is officially summer and of course that means, hitting the beach, cookouts and weekend getaways. It also means a bit more leisure time for reading, and the summertime is the perfect time to read something fun, light, and entertaining. Though I sometimes find books that are too light a bit boring, and prefer a little bite to my summertime reading. Maggie Shipstead’s newest novel “Astonish Me” fits the bill—it is a nice balance of easy reading, and an introspective thought provoking story. Plus it comes in this beautiful package, not only is it a great read but it will also look super gorgeous on your coffee table or bookshelf. A book that does double duty? Works for me. This novel is about a young dancer and her journey through life and the different choices she makes and how her life unfolds due to these choices. It also explores the idea of the “gift” of talent—those that are born with talent and those that have to work for it. The author writes from multiple view points, which gives the reader a wider perspective and makes for an interesting story line. Granted some of the plot is a bit theatrical and most likely would not play out in life in quite the same way, but again it is a novel and is meant to entertain. And if you are a fan of dance, and the theater then you will certainly enjoy this brilliant and approachable book.
[dropcap custom_class=”normal”]L[/dropcap]ast was quite a week here in the good old US of A. And it seems a good week for President Obama. And it has finally happened. Gay marriage is now legal in all 50 states after the Supreme Court ruled in a 4 to 5 vote that the constitution guarantees the right to same sex marriage. After working in the bridal industry for years it is quite refreshing to see this mile stone accomplished. I even saw a commercial this morning featuring a gay couple, wow we really have come a long way in this country haven’t we? When being gay is just taken in stride. Well it may not be quite that easy, but last weeks ruling was certainly cause for a major celebration. And with Caitlyn Jenner’s new show I am Cait due to start this month I would venture to say we are on the cusp of new chapter in American History. But then I remember the events that took place in North Charleston, South Carolina and I am reminded we have a long long way to go. But for the moment lets rejoice in this history making victory. And will you be watching Caitlyn’s new show?
[dropcap custom_class=”normal”]H[/dropcap] i all, today I am sharing a new post series called Link-Love Express. I will be sharing some of my favorite links and breaking news in the world of fashion, beauty, interior design, and art. I have shied away from this type of post in the past, but over time I found that I have discovered many wonderful websites, blogs and businesses via this type of post so I figured when in Rome, may as well join the fray! This will not be a weekly series but I hope to introduce you to many fun blogs and brands and to keep you abreast of the all that is happening that any self respecting blogging fashionista would want to know about. So without further adieu…
[dropcap custom_class=”normal”][/dropcap]Sarah Jessica Parker gets down and dirty as she deliverers her own shoes to Bloomingdales
[dropcap custom_class=”normal”][/dropcap]Need wedding invitations, baby announcements, or a lovely sophisticated identity for your brand? Then look no further then Ceci New York.
[dropcap custom_class=”normal”][/dropcap]Snapchat VS Periscope, are you over 25? Here’s a guide.
[dropcap custom_class=”normal”][/dropcap]God’s Love We Deliver dedicates a building to Michael Kors. I work directly across the street from this building and watched it go up for the past year. It was completed this past week and of course there was a ceremony to celebrate and you guessed it, Michael Kors was in attendance. The floor I work on is about 5-6 floors above this building and my fellow employee and I actually caught a glimpse of Michael Kors as he celebrated on the gorgeous roof top.
[dropcap custom_class=”normal”][/dropcap]Here is an AWESOME nursery redesign. Having a baby or just want to get inspired? Check out The Jungalow for more interior design goodness.
[dropcap custom_class=”normal”][/dropcap]Oh wow, I had no idea there was something called the National Stationary Show, check out Poppy Talks coverage to learn more.
[dropcap custom_class=”normal”][/dropcap]There is now a Birch Box Man, this would make a great gift for your significant other or your gay bestie.
[dropcap custom_class=”normal”][/dropcap]The photo above is via Oh Joy’s Career Day Series where she shares the lovely work of painter Kim West. I just LOVE Kim’s work and just may have to purchase one of her works of art for my future home.
[dropcap custom_class=”normal”]I[/dropcap] remember when I was a kid how excited I was when I got to look at my mom’s magazines. They transported me to exciting places and allowed me to escape from the drudgery of my daily life. When I would whine to my mom “I’m bored” and felt that I would die from the crushing weight of having “nothing to do” magazines were a godsend. I loved looking at the striking photography, wonderful fashions and beautiful models. I imagined myself growing up and living in the city and being an “independent” women. I did not dream about marriage and having babies like so many of my friends. My seven year old self would stomp around and proclaim to anyone who cared to listen “I’m never getting married!” I wanted to be like the lady on “That Girl”. My grandmother like to watch this show and she would often watch reruns while babysitting me and my sister. The show itself was too old for me and didn’t hold my attention, but I loved the opening sequence with Margo Thomas running through the streets of New York—independent, free, and on her own. As I got older my love for fashion grew but took a turn when I discovered the alternative fashions of the underground music scene. One of the first classes I took after high school was a stand alone class at F.I.T. and I flirted with the idea of applying to F.I.T but ended up going to school for film production and moving to the west coast. Well a decade and another degree later, I moved back to New York, and guess what? I am working at magazine and living in New York.
[dropcap custom_class=”normal”][/dropcap] But we all know that magazines and the publishing industry are going through a transition. Who knows what the future of publishing will be once the dust settles. But I think it would be a sad state of affairs if there were no magazines. And to be honest I don’t think that will be case, I think there will always be magazines in one form or another. It is nice to have things on the go, and we all love to interact with our electronic devices, but there is nothing like the 3-D tangible experience of flipping the pages of an actual magazine or book. But being a blogger I also know the allure of being able to fire up your computer, laptop or tablet and getting all the information you need at your fingertips in an instant. [blockquote]think of it like Netflix for publishing—Allie of ALLIE NYC [/blockquote]So when I heard about Next Issue I was certainly intrigued. For $9.99 a month you have access to 140 titles. You can browse, read and download as many titles and issues that you want, and you even have access to back issues. I love that you can download the issues to your tablet as I do not have cellular on my iPad. So I can download what I want when I am online at home and then I will have something to read when I am on the go. For another $5.00 a month you can also access daily and weekly publications. I am thinking of looking in to this service when I get the new lighter and thinner iPad. Of course not all publications are available, but that is fine with me as I still like to get those tangible issues in the mail. So I will probably subscribe to two or three publications and then sign up with Next Issue. This way I am not limited. If the three magazines I subscribe to are fashion based but I feel like reading about interior design, technology, politics or food I can do so anytime the mood strikes me via Next Issue—think of it like Netflix for publishing. How do you read about fashion? Is it strictly via blogs and online outlets? Is it strictly via magazines? Is it a combination of both? Do you subscribe to any magazines and would you do Next Issue? Do you read magazines on a tablet? What do you think the future holds?
[dropcap custom_class=”normal”][/dropcap] Images owned by ALLIE NYC©, please do not use without permission and or crediting/linking back to allienyc.com
[dropcap custom_class=”normal”]N[/dropcap] o, I don’t smile in pictures, or not very often. I never have, and when I do smile I do not show my teeth. I have always hated my smile. Which of course seems like quite the oxymoron, I mean a smile is supposed to express and represent joy, comfort, happiness and exuberance—not hate. But there you have it, I know it is not particularly “PC” to hate something about myself but I do. I have not had the best of luck when it comes to my teeth (and will leave out the gory details on why I have four missing molars) and it doesn’t help that my sister has a winning, bright white Brooke Sheilds kind of smile. As a child I had perfect, straight little pearls for teeth and my mom thought she could breath a sigh of relief, but then they fell out and my adult teeth came in and my adult face started to form, and that’s when things took a turn for the worse.
[dropcap custom_class=”normal”][/dropcap]I had too many teeth for my mouth. I have a very small, very narrow jaw—though long, another aspect that contributes to my not liking my smile. But when my adult teeth came in, my small jaw could not accommodate them and I had a number of teeth sticking out of my gums above my other teeth as there was no room for them to move in to their proper positions. We could not afford braces so my teeth were like this for much of my teen years. Then when I was about fifteen a family friend heard of a welfare program that would pay for braces and at seventeen I was finally fitted for braces. I wore them for years, and I had them removed in my early twenties when I was already in college and going to clubs. Out in the clubs I was affectionately known as “the girl with the braces”. It was quite the unveiling when I first hit the club sans braces. I was grateful and happy with the results in that now I had “normal” teeth. They may not have been beautiful, appealing or even picture worthy, but at least they were normal. Initially I tried to embrace my new teeth, and I would even smile in pictures, then with great anticipation I would hover over a friend’s shoulder to have a look, but what I saw looking back at me, left me dismayed.
[dropcap custom_class=”normal”][/dropcap][blockquote] Out in the clubs I was affectionately known as “the girl with the braces” – Allie of ALLIE NYC [/blockquote]
[dropcap custom_class=”normal”][/dropcap] While all my friends had white, even teeth that filled their smiles, my teeth did not ‘fill my smile” they were not exactly white—ok who am I kidding? They were taupe colored, and my teeth were not even in the traditional sense. They were not crooked exactly, but because a number of my natural teeth had been removed my other teeth did not bump up against one another in gradual size order the way most peoples teeth are alined. I have very tiny teeth bumped up against much larger teeth and so, in no way do they line up in a nice gradual alinement. This is not overtly noticeable when I am speaking, or when the occasional smile flashes across my face momentarily, but in pictures…it is very noticeable. And it caused me such grief that I finally gave up smiling in pictures and mastered the art of the non smile, smile.
[dropcap custom_class=”normal”][/dropcap]At this point if I had at the money I would probably look in to getting veneers. And I am not the only one, do you think all those celebrities and actors and people who spend their time in front of the camera all day, were all born with the same teeth? Nope, most of them had nice, average or even not so nice teeth. But living in our image driven society they knew if they were going to spend their lives in front of the camera here in the U.S. then ten grand would be a small price to pay for the advancement of their careers. Try googling “celebrities before veneers”—quite the eye opener. Our smiles and our teeth are very personal yet simultaneously very public. After the eyes it is our smiles that most people notice most. And yes, we are all supposed to love ourselves the way we are, but we all know, some us have a much easier time of this then others. So, do you like your teeth and your smile? Does your smile light up a room? Did you have to wear braces? And if you did were you happy with the results? Or were you lucky to have perfect teeth and a nice smile that you never had to give a thought to? And if this is the case, did you ever want your smile to be better then it is?
[dropcap custom_class=”normal”][/dropcap]Image via : Her New Tribe
[dropcap custom_class=”normal”]T[/dropcap] his past summer I had a lot of visitors in town: I had my step family in town from Paris, friends came in to town from Seattle and I visited with some friends who also had friends in town, so of course we ended up doing a lot of touristy type things. We headed to the beach—a much missed source of enjoyment for my friends who came in to town from Seattle, shopped A LOT, and we visited the many museums NY is famous for. And it dawned on me that…well…I don’t do this very often. Hardly at all really, and I also realized how pathetic this is. I live in what is considered by many, one of the greatest cities in the world, and one of the reasons it has this reputation, is for the culture and pleathora of museums located on this island of Manhattan. Yet, I average going to a museum once a year —if I’m lucky.
[blockquote] Even if you can’t afford to travel the world, you can take your children to the museum, zoo or local park. And don’t be afraid to take them to grown-up spots. Eating out in a restaurant teaches children how to be quite and polite and gives them the pleasure of knowing you trust them to behave.
—Kimora Lee Simmons [/blockquote]
[row_fluid][one_half] [dropcap custom_class=”normal”][/dropcap]Yes, I can blame it on a having a full-time job in publishing, maintaining a blog as a full-time job, and trying to have a social life…not to mention all the other day to day things: like grocery shopping, doctors appoints, hair appointments, family commitments. But still, if I can find the time to shop, to go out for drinks, and to go to the movies, I can find the time to go to a museum or art gallery. Right? Plus, the museums here in NY are not only famous for the art that is on exhibit inside them, but they are sometimes famous for other things. The MET , for example, is famous for being “the steps” that the well-heel teenagers of the one percent and of Gossip Girl fame like to spend their lunch breaks “gossiping” about the travesty of their lives. Kind of cool, right? But infamous mutterings aside, I love this museum, you really feel like you are in Europe when you step inside and it is particularly beautiful to visit during the holidays. There is no way one could see everything there is to see in one visit. So I guess it will have to become a regular haunt for me. And they have that wonderful rooftop bar that over looks Central Park and is THE date night hot spot in the summer! Seriously it does not get more romantic and I bet there have been quite the number of proposals in this spot. [/one_half][one_half] [/one_half][/row_fluid]
[row_fluid][one_half] [dropcap custom_class=”normal”][/dropcap] I am happy to report that I already got a head start on my New Year’s resolution and last weekend I headed to the Brooklyn Museum to see the Killer Heels exhibit. It was a great exhibit, albite a bit dark, so difficult to take pictures. Hence the lack of a post on this exhibit. The Museum is located in the heart of Brooklyn right off Prospect Park. It is in one of the most beautiful parts of Brooklyn, and as you can see, is oozing with historical reference. I had a wonderful day visiting this museum and plan on returning in December for the special event and runway show to celebrate the Killer Heels exhibit. And this will not be my last visit to this museum and is actually just the beginning. I also plan on purchasing a membership at the MET for all the afore mentioned reasons, as well as attending art shows at smaller, lesser known galleries. So wish me luck on my endeavors and regardless of where you live every city has it’s share of galleries and museums, so who’s with me? Will 2015 be the year of the museum?